So, what are you doing later...

I decided to stay in tonite. Not that big a deal, as I had some fun during the week, but tonite I wasn't feeling it. Earlier I was talking to my friend Nikki online, and she is in the midst of what some may term as a tumultuous scenario. Dating. What about it isn't tumultuous?

My last 'big' relationship was filled with it. Was it me or the situation? Most would probably say me, and I would be one of them. What makes us make relationships 'work'?

We all work on ourselves and our relationships, but, when did it relationships become work. It is not about putting forth the effort. However, is a relationship supposed to be a menial task?

So many friends are in the middle of what I can only deem as hopeless situations. One likes the other, the other likes them only after the bar closes, and someone feels slighted. Can you blame them? Is either of them at fault?

Remember the first crush you had? Mine was Amanda Lemke, who was in my first grade class, and she was the most beautiful girl you could imagine. I really liked her. So I gave her a little red plastic heart so she would know I liked her.

Now she lost that heart later that day, and she told me since she didn't have it, I couldn't play with her at recess.

I didn't remember this story until a few hours ago, as I found a little red heart laying on the ground. I smiled as picked it up. A little girl came running to me, said it was hers, and I placed it in her hand. Her face lit up as she ran back to her parents with her precious cargo protected by her in her tiny cupped hands.

She may lose that one again, but its the excitement of having it that makes us fight the battles to find ours. Amanda taught me the first in many lessons of dating.

You have to being willing to lose something in order to find it...