I included text from an email that a close friend of mine received while at work from a guy she has been seeing for about a month. Now before people start guy bashing, this email could just as well come from a woman as well.

The dating world is a strange place right now. It's almost as if we have been mentally altered into treating people as objects that we must find the best one for the best price. You meet them online, in a bar, walking the dog, or at work and after trying them on and comparing it to the others you are currently wearing to see if it goes to the next step or back on the rack.

I can understand the feeling of 'not putting all your eggs in one basket', but what happened to taking a risk or the good ol' going with your gut and just try to concentrate in one direction. Has the world of 200 cable channels and 45 different coffee drinks make us treat people the same way?

A couple years ago I was dating this girl who after a few weeks decided to go back to her exboyfriend as he wanted to give things another go. What was not told to me is that I was the control subject, the guinea pig, used to make the decision of going back, or trying something new.

You all should know how much the 80's movies speak to me on this.. But even then, it was someone using someone else to get back at someone for not liking them cause they liked someone but they didn't notice them but they still wanted them but their friends didn't like them dating ...(one long 80's cliche of dating diatribe) Those were harsh realities, but what is with the situations of putting someopne through the gamut of emotion just to decide you don't want them.

If I had that answer, well, I would have my own book deal, a radio and TV program, etc... Has it gone to the point that we are so afraid of missing out or being hurt that we have to be the ones to inflict the first strike?

I hope not.. But then again, I am guilty just like the rest..
Do you think that emailing someone is the way to do this, or do you think that in person is the way to go..

Oh, and for you Sex in the City fans.. 'He broke up with me.. ON A POST IT!'

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dahling, there is something i want to talk with youabout, and i need to get your input and discuss itwith you as soon as we can.here's my situation.i had this really hard core relationship with xxxxxxthat lasted about a year and a half, and it wasexhausting. i really gave it my all, and at the theend of it, i was just empty.i dated a little after that, but not with anyenthusiasm or any feeling of wanting to be involved inanything serious. i ended up dating someone rightbefore i went on tour, but that ended during my tour.anyway, i am really cautious and feeling like i needto take my time getting to know someone before i allowthings to move further, whether physically oremotionally. i just want to get to know someone andsee what happens without having to label it or limitit or force it... you know, i just want to hang outand see, just be friends and if it goes further, thencool.so, here's the nitty gritty. i am hanging out with youand i am having a ball and looking forward to gettingto know you better, and i have been open about how ifeel about stuff, and, thankfully, you've been reallycool and open to that.i am also spending some time getting to know anotherperson, and i have been honest about the way i feelwith her as well. i'm not at a point where i want tolimit or label anything with anyone, and i am reallyenjoying just simply getting to know the both of youwith no idea about what happens next. i do not, however, want to get into a situation wherei am actually dating two people at the same time, soknow that i will not allow that to happen.i wanted you to know this, and i am open to discussingit with you. let me know how you feel about this.especially since...okay, here's the deal. i've already committed to doing the xxxxxx xxxxx xxxxxx shindig since the theatretroupe i work with is doing a performance during theshow, and i brought this up with the other person i'mhanging out with, and we had already planned to gotogether... but then you and i have already talkedabout going as well... which means... which means...well... okay, so it looks like we're all going, andthere's this... uhm... you can guess... this mightbe... uhm... interesting? i mean, i don't foresee anyproblems, other than me being a little uncomfortablewith the idea and not knowing what in the world ishould do about it other than drink... a lot.. andhope everything's cool.so, i need to talk with you about this and all theother things that come up about this, so please hit mewhen you can.
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